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Sabotaging Yourself During The Divorce: What You Ought Not Do

13 March 2017

Estelle Mathieu

The decision to divorce your spouse can have explosive consequences to your personal life and that of your entire family. It's not something that can be done lightly; if your marriage has reached this point, emotions are running high and it's not always easy to act in a rational manner. That's why self-sabotage is something that could happen. Rash and emotional decisions you make during this period can affect your divorce settlement, custody agreement, post-divorce life, and relationship with members of your family. Try to avoid doing any of the following things as your divorce is worked out.

Talking Negatively about Your Spouse

While you might already realize that saying negative things about your spouse to the kids isn't a good idea, you may feel fine about trash talking them to everyone else you know. Doing this could cause family and friends to become stressed out about being around you and some of them could become resentful if they feel you're making them choose sides. Things you talk about could be passed on to your spouse, who could use information against you. You might want to vent, but if you do so, try to only share your feelings with a few people you can trust.

Seeing Someone New

Seeing someone new could be something you're thinking about to get back at a cheating spouse, or you might just be eager to have someone new in your life. However, it's vital that you avoid this. Not only could it interfere with your divorce settlement, but it could also have some bearing on custody issues, particularly if your spouse can prove that you are too busy with romance to provide a good environment for your children.

Thinking You'll Be in a Better Financial Situation

Whether you expect to receive child support or alimony or imagine that you won't have to pay much to your spouse for either of those things, you might think that your divorce settlement will be favorable to you. You could start making plans that reflect what you think your financial situation will be when you don't know for sure; as a result, you could be in for a rude awakening when the settlement finally goes through. Be sure to plan for your future life as if you will get much less than you expect so that you are ready for whatever happens.

If you can stay composed and calm while your divorce is playing itself out in the offices of your lawyer and your spouse's lawyer, you might have a more satisfactory resolution. Remain patient and keep checking with your divorce attorney to be sure that you are doing what you should. To learn more about the proceedings, contact a firm like Bineham & Gillen, PLLC.

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